Cheaters IRL Podcast

Episode 6 Part 1: Why Doesn't Amy Leave? Stacy & Todd's Retaliatory Behavior, Keeping Fit Does Not Guarantee a Partner's Fidelity, Trusting Instincts 
Why doesn't Amy leave Chad if she's so lonely? The barriers to leaving and reasons for staying.
The impact of avoidant behavior, cheating or emotional abuse on a partner
The importance of getting the right kind of help, and harm that can result from wrong help
Stacy and Todd's retaliatory behavior pattern, where they respond with harmful behavior if they perceive harm has been done to them
Keeping Fit and Looking Good does not guarantee the fidelity of your partner, people cheat on partners who look good and are sought after by the opposite sex all the time
If your instincts are telling you something does not sound, true, right or make sense, it probably is because it isn't true

Episode 5 Part 2: Chad & Amy Suspicions of Cheating, Todd & Stacy Suspicions of Cheating
 
Chad & Amy Suspicions of Cheating Arise. Chad spends far too much time away from home. The word divorce is brought up by Amy. She is achingly lonely. Chad doesn't respond to her efforts to spend time on their marriage. Baffling incidents occur that don't make sense to Amy.
Todd & Stacy Suspicions of Cheating Arise. Therapy is only slightly helping. Stacy looks forward to flirting with exes at church each week. Todd engages in behavior that causes another rift in their marriage. The family business gets off the ground. But the business brings problems into the marriage. 
 
 

Episode 5 Part 1: Why is Raquel Struggling to Believe Rumors, Telling Someone About a Partner Cheating, Shooting the Messenger, Cheaters Flipping the Script to Impeach the Credibility of Rumors of Their Cheating, Financial Evidence of Cheating
 
Why is Raquel Struggling to Believe Rumors of Kyle Cheating? Including an upsetting rumor about her husband getting another woman pregnant? What makes it difficult for people to accept that what they are hearing about their spouse from others might be true?
The difficulty of reconciling our personal experiences with a person with information that is contrary to that impression of them.
Telling someone about their spouse cheating, or rumors of their spouse cheating. Why might it result in a "Shoot the Messenger" situation?
The need to be careful in telling someone about their spouse's infidelity.
How Cheaters respond to their partner confronting them about rumors regarding their cheating. Cheaters may Flip the Script to Impeach the Credibility of the person sharing the rumors with their partner. Cheaters will often try to develop an "us versus the world" mentality to prevent their partner from believing others outside the marriage about rumors. 
Chaters may watch how you respond to different methods of responding, to determine the most effective way to convince their partner that the rumors are not true. 
 Financial Evidence of Cheating. There is frequently financial evidence of cheating. Charges, Lines of Credit, Secret Credit Cards, Apartments or Rental Properties. 

Episode 4 Part 2: Michelle and Danny After the Alter, Raquel and Kyle After the Alter
 
Michelle and Danny struggle with intimacy, Michelle is highly uncomfortable with engaging in physical intimacy with Danny. She feels immense guilt over this, but Danny is very understanding. Danny excels at work and they move into a good neighborhood. They have twins and Michelle is determined to get into shape and hopefully that will help solve her intimacy issues.
Raquel and Kyle begin their life together, rumors of infidelity begin immediately. Kyle is a huge flirt and will not stop flirting with other women. Raquel finds out she is pregnant, but also finds out a very upsetting rumor.

Episode 4 Part 1: What is Legal Marriage, Is a Cheater Always a Cheater, Changed Appearance is a Sign of Cheating
In Episode 4 Part 1, we discuss what Legal Marriage is, it's not about Love. It's about granting rights to the person you are marrying, as to you, including rights to the income you earn and property you accrue. This makes it particularly important that you keep your marriage strong and do not remain married to someone whom you don't want to have those rights. And to be careful not to be in a marriage where harm is occurring. We also discuss whether or not a cheater is always a cheater, and if someone who has been cheated on is less likely to cheat. We end with a discussion of the red flag of a partner altering their appearance and/or carrying items to reapply during the day.

Episode 3 Part 2: Nicole & Dave After the Alter and Tanya & Jeff After the Alter
 
Things begin to crack immediately for Nicole & Dave, but Dave is able to smooth things over
Things are looking really good for Tanya & Jeff, they aren't showing any cracks well into their marriage

Episode 3 Part 1: Lying in Family Law, "It Didn't Mean Anything to Me" and the Impact of Infidelity on Property Division in Divorce
We discuss why it's not a good idea to accuse the opposing party of lying in Family Law, and why it's better to use evidence to show that they aren't being honest instead. We discuss the loaded impact of certain words and why it's important to be careful about how you approach your case in the court system.
We also discuss the "After the Alter" episodes of both Amy & Chad and Stacey & Todd
We discuss the commonly pushed belief that it's somehow "less bad" if infidelity didn't involve emotions versus when it does involve emotions and explore the impact each scenario has on the long-term success of the marriage.
We discuss how Infidelity can affect property division in a divorce

Chad and Amy begin their married life. Cracks are already appearing. They get jobs at the same company, in different departments with schedules that make spending time together difficult. Chad struggles dealing with Amy's emotions. Amy struggles dealing with Chad's tendency to shut down in certain situations. Both are excited about the arrival of the baby, which is the thing really holding them together.
Stacy and Todd begin their married life. They are really enjoying an active social life, at school and church. But family is beginning to be a problem. Especially Todd's mom. Todd's need for his mother's approval, and her demands on his time are causing serious friction in their marriage. Stacy's past is also having an impact. 

Episode 2 Part 1: In this episode we discuss the difficulties in Family Law including the importance of being honest with your attorney and the reasons you don't want to end up in Court. Definitions of Gaslighting and Love Bombing. We discuss what Conflict Avoidant Behavior is, and the negative impact it has on intimacy and how it can result in infidelity and abusive behavior toward the cheated-on Spouse. We also discuss a Red Flag for those tempted to cheat to identify a sign that they may be headed to do so. We end with the impact of Adultery on Alimony awards.
Difficulties in Family Law
Gaslighting
Love Bombing
Conflict Avoidant Behavior
Barriers to True Intimacy
Eliciting sympathy to entice a cheating partner
Hypercritical thoughts as signs of being tempted to cheat
No Fault Divorce
The impact of adultery on alimony awards

Cheaters IRL is a podcast discussing cheating in real life (IRL) experiences. It shares 6 true stories of cheating and discusses the commonalities, misconceptions, red flags and even legal implications of cheating. It is written and produced by an experienced family law attorney. Each episode has two parts. Part 1 of each episode is the discussion portion of the episode, where relationships are discussed including common misconceptions about cheating, red flags to spot cheating and the legal implications of cheating. Part 2 of each episode takes us through the 6 couples' real-life stories of cheating where we can see real life examples of the items discussed in Part 1.
In Ep 1 Part 2, we will be introduced to our 6 couples who hit the enormous obstacle of infidelity in their marriage. We will hear their how they met and married stories, as well as get some background details of how they grew up and what factors affected their personalities and expectations of marriage and relationships. This will set us up to go with them through their relationships to see how cheating impacted their lives.